A career in Motherhood

(Note: The whole article is a perception; I have completely no clue what is driving me to write on this subject…and it’s out of my mind but hmm..? I guess you say it best when you say nothing at all. Thus I am going to keep mum.)

I appreciate her sober tone and her kindness, I realize her tension and her urge to maintain her realm, I value her worry and her care and I am grateful for her turmoil and skepticism. 

Yes she is a mother!!!

This topic is one that calls forth all manner of wishful fantasies on both sides; people say motherhood is the best feeling ever, excitedly hesitant though the notion of motherhood makes me feel as a full-fledged career option.

The tension of a woman accumulated with the effort of mothering along with the work of her career is likely to be in an never - enduring state, but how would it be if motherhood itself was a career choice, surely it would be an option as long as the economic conditions would sustain.

So can motherhood be a career option?

Some wonderful people I know have spent all their lives being just a mother. I mean they leave their education, their career’s, those self centrist dreams all for motherhood, initially reluctant though. I am so cynical at the moment, while I appreciate and urge every single inch of it, right from the labor pain till you get your child married; a broader aspect makes me think motherhood to be as a serious and a full-blown profession.

In today’s point of view, motherhood is experienced by managing work and child with the right set of combination. It all starts from childcare subsidies then corporate culture, then media culture, of course with social expectation along with family outlook, followed by physiological outbursts and at the end your willpower.

Ideological circumstances of modernity, in so called modern mothers sustain particularly when it comes to self hood, decisions to be made and change in priorities comparatively the work of achievement requires self-culture, ambition and drive, motherhood on another hand requires absolute patience and meekness, in fact mother’s drive to care for, relate to and invest in her child.

A career in motherhood fundamentally relates to the drive that powers her achievement rather not being of her children’s but herself. If we read out the requirement of the given career option serenity has to be your ambition and love and devotion towards your child has to be your instinct.

The scope in this career option would make you a successful mother and rather cultivate you to be a distinctive woman that runs from a woman’s drive to a mother drive and her instigation to succeed over all. At the end I guess the intense pleasure of looking at your baby growing is a amalgamation of all the promotions, increments and achievements that you could expect from your career.

The logistics of industrial modernity although cannot be compared with the specialization that sorts a mother into separate spaces dividing mothering from career. Tuff task!!!

Why is it said that Feminism is vulnerable?

If vulnerability is the worst case scenario and I being contradictory hate the fact that women are treated vulnerable; even a head- strong women at given time phase surrenders to this emotion. It not a woman phenomena rather a human phenomena, it is an extreme uncouth manner in which the society target only women to be vulnerable.

Sometimes I feel what feminism is:

Is it my point of view or the way I question things?

Is it the need to prove that women can take on the world by themselves?

Is gender being navigated by culture or is it always about culture and not gender?

A lone woman is termed vulnerable why not a lone man?

Marriage is essential for a woman at a given age why isn't the same for a man?

Is it traditionally masculine to not display your emotions and thus if you do, it is termed into feminine?

If we try to distance ourselves from emotions and refuse to be taken care of, we are said to be practical and if we do we are denoted as vulnerable.

So what is the concept of feminism trying to achieve?

I read this somewhere that, “The feminist agenda is not about equal rights for women. It is about a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.” I learnt this was written by Pat Robertson, who famously said this in the 90's.

Yes I am a feminist, but I don't hate men, or think every man is a rapist, or think every man has evil intentions but I just hope that there was no bias and we could live in gender equality.

Someone once told me ‘Men and Women are similar not equal’ rather if he would have told me ‘Men and Women are different but are equal’, it would have been more agreeable.

Psychological it is noted that showing your emotions in public is an attribute of an individual who is mentally strong but hiding emotions are the qualities of a vulnerable person, thus showcasing that we are emotionally vulnerable could make us seem rather strong, wont it?

Feminist or non –Feminist, I feel every woman has an urge to prove herself, try so hard in this so called Man’s world. Deriving to the fact…that every driving force is not needed to be termed as feminism, rather subjective but it’s a normal human tendency, to be bigger and better.

Few people tend women to be nothing more than sex objects or baby machines but I don’t mean to say that all are like that. Many a times we are taught what is acceptable by boys and what is acceptable by girls. Who made this gender differentiation? We are taught to care about, and attend to others before attending to ourselves or acknowledging it that we too need care. I wonder who made this universal set of rules that we all abide to, irrespective of our language or even sometimes our culture.

Somehow I have come to a point that being a feminist its not what triggers me rather its the thought of discrimination that instigates me. Discrimination between a girl and a boy, between rich and poor, between able and the disable. 

Sometimes I find myself becoming defiant on what the society expects out of me…sometimes I feel the society is strange and sometimes I reach to a given point, nevertheless I am being Ambivalent!

The Bandhua 1947 campaign

The Bandhua 1947 campaign